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THE WANTED BABY – DO I WANT A BABY? (AWFUL CONTRACEPTION)

April 7th, 2009

A simple question about the type of contraception she was using brought an angry flood of tears and an outpouring of the story of how awful it was, and why she was childless. Although she had married on the understanding that neither of them wanted to have children, underneath she had been sure that if she changed her mind it would be easy enough to persuade her husband to think differently as well. As the years passed she began to realize that she did want a baby but found she was unable to sway her husband. She was angry that he persisted in his rebellion against the family life that she now desired; angry that he had been made redundant from his job; and angry that he should expect to have sex with her when it was so painful.

Her immediate anger at the hospital staff was quickly reflected in the speed with which she jumped at the subject of childlessness, almost as if she was saying, ‘Someone should have warned me that I would not be able to change his mind about babies, even after 10 years of marriage.’

Because she was unable to share her ambivalent feelings about motherhood with her husband, her fears of both having and being without a baby were sublimated into a physical pain associated with intercourse, so that their ‘mutual penetration’ became intolerable and inaccessible.